all of your questions
If you are new to therapy or just new to therapy with me, it's natural that you might have some questions.
I'll do my best to answer them here.
You can also email me with any other questions or concerns you might have.
What are your rates?
Do you take insurance?
I am not contracted with any insurance companies currently. I can provide the paperwork you will need to submit to your insurance company for "out of network" benefits. It's worth checking with your insurance plan to see if they will reimburse you some percentage of your cost.
Do you offer a sliding scale?
A have a few spots reserved in my practice for people who cannot afford my regular fee. If my regular fee is a hardship, please call me to discuss.
Do you work via video or only in office visits?
I do both. I can only work via video with California residents.
Are you just going to sit there quietly and nod occasionally?
I try to meet clients where they are at. Some people need more "active" listening (asking questions, making observations), others need more space to think, reflect and feel - I am comfortable either way and with everything in between.
Do you give homework?
Not usually. Sometime I might suggest a new way of thinking about something, maybe even a book that I think could be useful but these are not assignments - just ideas.
How long does therapy take?
Therapy is not a "one size fits all" experience. You decide when you feel you've gotten what you need from therapy. If you aren't sure, we can talk about it and decide together if it's time to end for now. You can always come back later if you want to.
How do I know if you are the right therapist for me?
Therapy is a relationship. You can't know right off the bat whether it is the right one for you but often you can get a general sense of whether it's a strong "No", a "Maybe" or a clear "Yes".
If it's a Yes, then we can talk about next steps.
If it's a Maybe, I can answer any questions or address any concerns you may have.
If it's a No, not a problem. I'm happy to help you find someone who is going to be a good match if you'd like some other names.
I offer a free 20 min phone or video consultation so you can get a sense of who I am and I can hear more about what you want help with. I also treat the first 3-4 session as "consultations", a time to try out the work together before deciding whether or not to go forward.
Do you share aspects of your personal life with your clients?
Self-disclosure varies from therapist to therapist. I err on the side of less self-disclosure. I do this, not to be cryptic, but because I want to make sure that you feel as free as possible to share anything and everything you want to tell me without being worried that
you might offend me or hurt my feelings.
What if I don't know exactly what my problem is? Can you still help me?
Absolutely. Often, figuring out what is really bothering you or getting in your way is the first step of making things better. That's part of my job.
What can I expect in our first meeting?
Before our first meeting, we will have 20 min on the phone to talk. I will send you my office address and all the information you need to get to my office including door codes. When you arrive, have a seat in the waiting area and I'll come get you at our appointed time.
During our meeting, you can just launch in a tell me what is going on and what you are struggling with, OR I can ask you some questions to get the ball rolling.
I'll ask that you pay me for that first session at the time we meet so please bring a check or be prepared to pay me through Zelle or Venmo.
At the end of our meeting, you can decide whether you want to make another appointment, give it some thought, call me later or check out someone else before deciding. Totally up to you.